Monthly Archives: January 2017

22/01/2017
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“Jaw With John” – The Dream of the 90’s is Also Alive in This 24-Year-Old…Not!

“I am 24 years old. I am a happy person overall, but lately I’ve been feeling down. With everything going on in today’s world, and the state of society these days, it scares me at times.

I felt safe in the ’90s. Not so much seemed to be happening back then. Life was simpler. Is what I’m experiencing normal, or is it something more?

– Feeling Down in CT”

Dear Feeling Down,

“I felt safe in the ’90’s.” Uh, what?

You’re 24 right now, meaning that you were most likely born in 1993. Meaning you were four when Titanic came out and I was standing in line with my grandma to see the movie that EVERYONE had to see. This also means that your perception of the ’90’s is skewed.

“Not so much seemed to be happening back then.” You weren’t old enough to remember the OJ Simpson trial (not the awesome FX TV show), the first Harry Potter book being released, the JonBenet Ramsey murder, Seinfeld, Princess Diana’s death, Clinton-Cigar-Monica-Gate, Susan Lucci FINALLY winning an Emmy, the LA Riots, Beanie Babies, the Oklahoma City Bombing… You see where I’m going here? You were a young child at the time so of course you felt safe!

You were a child who’s only real concern was trying to ride a bike without training wheels and figuring out how to tie your shoes! I’m oversimplifying, I know, but I need to in order to make my point.

If current events have you so down then do something about it and be proactive in your community and be the change you want to see in the world.

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20/01/2017
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“Jaw With John” – A Brush With A Toothbrush

“Where I work, we have several departments, which share a large, public bathroom.

My issue is this: Often, I walk into the bathroom to see a colleague brushing their teeth in one of these public sinks.

I’m guessing the most common reason is to prepare for a dentist appointment, but regardless of the reason, I find it really disgusting and thoughtless of others.

I wash my hands in those sinks, and people think it’s OK to spit their food, saliva and germs into a public sink?

It turns my stomach. I understand wanting clean teeth prior to seeing the dentist, but isn’t this poor (and unsanitary) etiquette? Your thoughts, please. — Disgusted in the Bathroom”

Dear Disgusted,

You “wash your hands in those sinks”…what? How do you wash your hands? Are you putting them right up against the porcelain, rubbing them all over the walls of the sink?

If you answered yes to any of those rhetorical questions, then, you have a problem. That’s not how you wash your hands. They should hover over the base of the sink as you scrubs them with soap and water.

Also, people do use the water from the sink to rinse out their mouths so their saliva will get in that sink that way too. Just saying.

Let’s get real here. People got meetings to go to or dentist’s appointments like you suggested. But, is it gross to brush your teeth in an office bathroom? Yes, but that’s on those who brush their teeth. Here’s what you can do: You can run the water for a bit before you wash to rinse out the sink and then wash your hands. Boom. Problem solved.

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10/01/2017
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“Jaw With John” -Friends Have Pregnant Pause In Friendship

“I used to be very good friends with a colleague. We regularly socialized outside of work, and I was a frequent guest in her home.

This all changed, however, when (in my supervisory role) I followed work protocol and notified our human resources department that she was pregnant.

Even as other colleagues knew she was pregnant, my friend was furious that I informed HR. I don’t think I did anything wrong, but to keep the peace, I apologized to her repeatedly and sincerely.

On the surface, she appeared to accept my apology, but her attitude toward our friendship changed overnight. All interactions outside of work came to an abrupt halt. I thought that she needed time to get over what she regarded as a betrayal, but after several months, this is the new norm.

She recently gave birth and invited me over to meet her new baby. My husband thinks that this is an opportunity to mend fences and has encouraged me to visit her.

I can’t imagine doing this. I have been persona non grata at her house, and in her life, for several months now. The loss of our friendship has been incredibly painful, but I am slowly coming to terms with it.

If I could wave a magic wand and resume our friendship, I would. But because I no longer trust this person with my emotions, keeping my distance seems like the right course of action. Yet I worry that perhaps my husband is right. What do you think I should do? – Upset”

Dear Upset,

I can tell you right off the bat that you violated her privacy by telling HR yourself. That’s not your call to make. It’s hers. You should have told her to tell HR and then she could’ve dealt with it her way.

As for the “magic wand” you keep are asking for, her inviting you over is just that.

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04/01/2017
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“Jaw With John” – Your Husband Said What Now?

“My husband of more than 30 years has erectile dysfunction. When I was overweight I was happy enough not to have relations with him. Now I’ve got control of my health and would like to step it up in the bedroom.

He suggests, regularly, that I seek another partner. Besides being hurt by these requests, I’m fine waiting for him. Now he says that if he knew I was seeing someone else, he would not have to take pills because he’d be aroused at the thought.

I’m stunned and confused. He’s never been into porn. I don’t know where this is coming from. What should I do? — It Got Complicated”

Dear Complicated,

Uh, what?

I’m sure that you’ve been down the E.D. pill road and maybe he doesn’t want to do that and if you haven’t then that’s something you can try.

Final thought here because I’m a little limp with how to resolve this (see what I did there?): Role Play. Use that knowledge and try to drum up a lil sexual excitement!

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04/01/2017
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“Jaw With John” – Guests Present But Not With A Present

“I recently celebrated my marriage with an amazing wedding! We had the best night of our lives, and so many guests told us it was the best wedding they had ever been to.

While enjoying reading cards and opening gifts, we were shocked to find 35 of our 140 guests did not leave a gift. We have racked our brains. Was the gift table too hard to find? Are they planning on sending a gift? Were some gifts stolen?

The probability of this is low as the area was secure and well-supervised. The table was a little tricky to spot, but the venue wasn’t that large.

We are honestly feeling hurt. As an aside, my husband and I paid for the wedding ourselves and many of our friends knew this.

Several people have suggested discussing this directly with the offending guests. This is a really tricky situation, but that number is so surprisingly high.

Any advice on how to approach this sticky situation? — Baffled Bride”

Dear Baffled,

Speaking from experience, the last wedding I went to I didn’t bring a gift with me. I found the couples registry and then purchased it online and had it sent to them. Maybe that has happened with a few of your gifts.

As for the stolen bit…c’mon, be real here. This isn’t You’re The Worst (hilarious show btw). Gifts were not stolen.

Let’s face it, some people do not feel required to bring or purchase a gift for a new couple. They might want to just show up, get drunk, party, dance, etc. You need to accept this fact and move on. You didn’t get married for the stuff – unless you’re in it for your husbands stuff – HEY OH! (I’m Kidding). You two got married, and chose a public ceremony so that you could share your love with your close friends and relatives.

 

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