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09/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Return To Sender

“Over time I have received repeated invitations for dinner, a play, a special event, etc., from acquaintances whose company and activities I don’t enjoy. If I meet them on the street or in the neighborhood, a few minutes of pleasant conversation is fine. Otherwise I find them boring, high-pressure and totally involved in things I don’t care about or want to spend my time on.

If I accept invitations I feel an obligation to reciprocate, which is annoying.

I don’t enjoy their interests (opera, travel, expensive trips, constant socializing and their high-octane chatter) or company, so is it reasonable just to say, “That’s not something I really enjoy and need to pass up at this time. But thank you for thinking of me”?

It seems harsh but I am tired of making lame excuses that serve no purpose long term. — Dreading Those Invitations”

Dear Dreading:

You don’t enjoy travel?

You don’t enjoy travel.

A part of me finds this mind boggling. Another part finds it refreshing. EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I would see on dating sites would list how much they loooooooove to travel and I would say (in my head) “Oh really? You like to get away from your home and go someplace new and exciting? That makes you special and interesting….” NO IT DOESN’T!!! IT MAKES YOU LIKE EVERYONE ELSE!! Gah! But that’s another story for another time.

Your choice is simple: politely decline their invitations and say you’re not interested. That will stop them from badgering you and it could lead to them presenting you with different events to go to that you might enjoy.

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09/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – You Need A Potential Breakup Song

“I am a high school sophomore. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about two months now. Lately I’ve been feeling that he and I just aren’t working out as a couple, but I can’t bring myself to break up with him, though I do want to tell him how I feel.

I don’t feel comfortable saying anything to him in person (it doesn’t help that we don’t have much time to talk between classes), and though I’d prefer it, I don’t feel that over e-mail or instant messaging is a good way to break up. I would still like to stay friends but am unsure of what to do to end our relationship. — Confused”

Dear Confused:

Lemme tell you something Confused: Tell him how you feel! As a guy-who-eventually-found-out-that-the-girl-he-had-been-dating-didn’t-really-feel-the-same-way-about-him I can tell you that it’s the worst! You can’t keep stringing him along. Right now you’re giving him false hope and that’s the worst thing for a High School guy. And, wait…what about after school? You don’t have time to do it between classes, and frankly you shouldn’t do it at school at all, that will be embarrassing for him, but what about after school? That seems like the best option.

After school, give him the old “We need to talk” and let him down easy. He’ll probably be pissed but what can you do? I know, find a new guy! Or listen to some music, you can’t go wrong. Just don’t e-mail him or IM him, you’re on point about avoiding those.

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02/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Veggies Are Gross

“Today, while shopping in the produce section of the grocery store, I saw a man pushing a shopping cart. He pulled out a handkerchief and gave his nose a big, productive blow with both hands.

Without stopping to de-germ his hands, he proceeded to push the cart over to the lettuce section and handled several heads of lettuce, with both hands, before selecting the one he wanted.

I was disgusted. Not only did this man touch the shopping cart handle with his germy hands (a cart that others would use throughout the day), but he also touched food that other customers, including myself, were going to buy.

I wanted to say something to him but didn’t know if I should. Would you have said something? If so, what? — Disgusted Shopper”

Dear Disgusted:

If you hadn’t seen him do it you still would’ve walked right over there and picked up a head of lettuce, taken it home and washed it anyway. Right? I mean, that’s what your supposed to do with produce. It’s not super clean when it’s picked, shipped, packaged, unboxed and then placed in the store so it’s your job to take it home and wash it.You just witnessed the #1 reason to wash your produce at home.

The stores do provide the disinfecting wipes for the shopping carts so you can AND SHOULD wipe down your cart, if you’re not doing so already.

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02/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Eating Off The Table? Next Stop Floor!

“Recently I met a group of retired women for breakfast at a casual restaurant. One of the women brought her toddler granddaughter. During the meal she let the girl sit on her lap and eat her scrambled egg and pancake off the table. The waitress offered her a dish or clean paper place mat but she refused, saying the girl gets enough germs on her own.

I was disgusted thinking of all the “ugly” germs on the table, but I didn’t say a word. Would I have been overreacting if I had said something? — Lost Appetite”

Dear Lost:

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26/03/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Finally Get Involved Face To Face

“We are a group of six women who have been friends (co-workers first) for over 20 years. Some are married, some with grandchildren, and all are retired/semi-retired.

For the last few years, one member of our group has become nearly impossible to reach via phone (no computer/email/cell), and when any of us leaves a voice mail, our calls are seldom returned, with either no reason or some vague or lame excuse (if any) as to why.

She claims her friends are very important, but we are finding that hard to believe. She makes plans with us for lunch, dinner, plays, etc., but often does not show up or calls to say she won’t be joining us. What can we do? — Upset Friends”

Dear Upset:

You say she’s a good friend and yet you can’t take the time to actually go over to her home and see her in person? That sounds to me like the best option to see what’s really going on behind closed doors.

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