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14/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Now Dasher, Now Dancer, Prancer and Vixen, On Vomit, On Cupid…Wait, what?

“My family drove six hours to visit family members over Christmas.

Upon arrival, we were informed that one of their children had been ill with the stomach bug since the day before.

We ended up spending the holiday with their entire family (including three kids, both parents and a grandparent) sick and running to the bathroom. Once home, all three of my children got the stomach bug. My wife and I will get it soon, no doubt.

Is it wrong of me to be extremely upset with the family we visited for not notifying us immediately when their first child fell ill so WE could decide if we should visit? I feel it was disrespectful to keep that information from us. Once when one of ours was sick we called to let them know and they chose to postpone their visit.

Obviously, if sickness unexpectedly befalls after arrival, it’s bad luck. However, I feel as though we are all now unnecessarily suffering due to their selfish desire not to miss out on a Christmas visit.

Any advice? — Furious Dad”

Dear Furious:

I am sure that the family thought that the bug might just be a 24-hour thing and that’s why they failed to inform you the day before. Having said that, they most definitely could’ve told you somewhere along the 6-hour trip over there – hopefully on the outset and not within the last hour – that way you could’ve planned accordingly. Ultimately, this shit happens ALL THE TIME. There is no use getting furious over it. Accept it, drink some fluids, rest, make a few trips to the can and you’ll be feeling like a champ in no time!

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12/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Friends With Daughter’s Ex? Sounds Like A Movie I Know…

“My 21-year-old daughter broke up with her boyfriend of four years, “Bradley,” about six months ago. It was the right decision for her and she has moved on.

From what my daughter tells me, he was devastated. Bradley is a hardworking young man who put himself through college and has plans to continue his education. My husband and I offered guidance to him when he was with our daughter, as his family was not able to. He was like a son to us.

My husband and I are grieving! Bradley spent countless hours in our home. He was part of our family.

We have seen him once since the breakup and have exchanged a couple of short emails.

In hindsight, I realize we should not have allowed ourselves to get so attached.

Knowing this situation, what are your thoughts on us staying in touch with him? My head tells me that we should not, but my heart says otherwise. — Saddened Parent”

Dear Saddened:

This LITERALLY sounds like one of the plot points from Meet The Parents. You guys are the Robert DeNiro, Blythe Danner couple and this ex-boyfriend is Owen Wilson. You will need to be careful how this friendship develops and how you cultivate it around your daughter, just like in the movie – although that was under entirely different, and fictional, circumstances. Because if you’re not careful, the next think you know you’ll be carving a beech tree and palling around making your daughters new boyfriend uncomfortable because he’s a male nurse and that’s funny because he’s a man in a predominantly woman’s profession even though there are plenty of male nurses in the world…

OK, be honest with your daughter about this friendship and she will be honest with you. Otherwise you’re close to becoming the plot of a movie that came out 15 years ago.

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12/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – It’s Seafood, Not See Food

“My husband and I just hosted another family meal and, once again, I am dismayed by the complete lack of basic manners and courtesy from various adult family members.

No one says please or thank you. Many of them chew with their mouths open and talk with their mouths full. They are all older than 40. I can’t think of any polite way to make them aware of their rudeness, but I am sick of it. Any suggestions? — Grossed Out”

Dear Grossed:

Suggestion: Don’t eat with them again. What you described is disgusting and … well, just plain disgusting. There is no delicate way to say to an adult that their eating habits are that on an infant. They won’t take kindly to your comment, no matter how you tell them. Perhaps this family is just a “Meet For Drinks” family. That way you’ll never have to see them behave poorly again. Unless they’re slurpers…

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10/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Offline Girlfriend Creating Online Barriers

“My serious girlfriend has a social media account. She refuses to include me in her group and has blocked me from having access to simply look at the site.

This concerns me because while I understand she needs and deserves privacy, I feel like she could be hiding something from me. I’m not sure what she could be hiding but I wonder if it is something like having relationships with other men.

Am I being overly concerned or unfair to her? — Serious Guy”

Dear Guy:

Uh no dude. You’re not. You have every reason to be concerned. She won’t let you see what’s on her Facebook(?) page – I assume Facebook because let’s be real here, no one is on MySpace anymore – and that raises a GIANT RED FLAG. If you’re the snooping kind then you could ask someone who has access to her page show you what she’s up to. Or you know, you could just ask her straight up and see how she reacts.

If you two are as serious as you say you are and she won’t let you in to her digital space and this is a big problem for you, then you might need to rethink this relationship. She is clearly hiding something from you and put up a barrier. Break it down or break up with her…or break it down and THEN break up with her…or break it down and stay with her…You have a few options.

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10/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Let The Marriage Dye

“I have been married for 17 years, and for the past year I have stopped coloring my hair. Last week my husband told me that he is not attracted to me anymore — mainly because of my hair color.

I feel very strongly about not coloring my hair. I want to go through life being as authentic as I can be, but should I color my hair to save my marriage? — Inquiring Wife”

Dear Inquiring:

Congratulations! You’ve been married to a shallow man for 17 years! I’m preeeeeetty sure that if he is not attracted to you anymore because of your hair color then he was not truly attracted to you at all. That’s easily one of the dumbest reasons I’ve ever heard for someone to not be attracted to someone anymore. Easily. Tell him that if he doesn’t like it, he can get out. You will not sacrifice who you are just because he doesn’t like your hair color.

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