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27/05/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Death Becomes Her

“My husband’s ex-girlfriend seems to come around when there is a funeral for friends and family — and stays for hours. She hangs with my husband the whole time and talks about the past (she never brings her husband).

I want to tell her at the next funeral not to overstay her welcome.

Should I let it go and continue to humiliate myself over this behavior in front of relatives, or should I do something about it!? I’m sick of being treated like this! — Had It”

Dear Had It:

How many people die in your town?!?!?!?

Is this like CSI: where there’s a new body popping up every week? No, it’s not. So CTFO.

It’s a mild inconvenience. She brings up the past because someone from her past – and by connection your husband’s – has passed on. If you don’t like her dredging up the past with your husband then maybe stick by him and guide the conversation in a different direction whenever she brings it up.

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11/12/2014
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“Jaw With John” – You Can’t Walk Over Burned Bridges

“I was married over 40 years. My ex-wife and I had numerous problems throughout our marriage. I left several times but always went back. The last time I left, I filed for divorce.

It’s been a few years and I am starting to miss her. We talk briefly every once in a while, mostly because of our grandchildren.

I am currently living with a divorced woman. We get along great but never talked of marriage.

Lately my live-in mentioned getting married. It has hit me like a ton of bricks. I don’t want to. I want to go back to my ex. I don’t know if she’ll take me back. If my current relationship falls apart, I have no place to go, but I don’t care.

I don’t know how to go about talking to my ex about going back to her. I don’t even know if she will take me back.

I am currently not seeing a psychiatrist, though I have in the past and will probably do so again. — Torn”

Dear Torn:

You left, now you want to go back? People always want what they can’t have. This is one of those situations.

You have a history of coming and going soooooo I doubt your ex-wife will listen to you or want you back. Just a shot in the dark there.

As for your current live-in, you need to tell her up front what you want out of this relationship. If she leaves and you have no place to go you said you’d be fine? Uhh, what? I don’t think you know exactly what you want.

You’re scared shitless that your live-in wants to tie you down and you want to run back to what you know and are comfortable with. CTFO, take some “me time” and figure out what you want.

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