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11/08/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Put Your Behind In The Past

“I dated a guy on and off for eight years. After finally breaking things off with him, I have been single now for the last three years.

I have not been on a date for the whole three years that I have been single. I am an attractive woman, but I can’t seem to attract any man since I broke up with my last boyfriend. I also have trust issues I cannot seem to shake off. Please help me control my past. — Wondering Single”

Dear Wondering:

“You got to put your behind in the past.” – Pumba

I can’t help you control your past. You need to learn from what happened and move forward. That’s the only way you’ll find someone.

Let me tell you that there’s never been a worse time to be single than right now. Honestly. First of all there are bars and places where you could traditionally meet people that are generally a nightmare and filled with the people with whom you don’t want to have a relationship. Then there are the dating sites and apps that make it easier to find people who don’t like to go to those bars. They will share your common interests but some people just want to chat and never want to meet up. Others will only want friendship from you, leading you on making you believe that you have something special.

It sucks. It truly, utterly sucks.

If there is a silver lining then it is that there are success stories out there. You just need to try other places to meet people.

Ultimately, be confident in yourself and you will attract that guy. Forget all that negativity I just spewed out as I was partially venting my own frustrations and exude confidence. You’ll be set if you do.

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04/06/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Online Dating Keeps Giving Him 404 Error

“Why do so many women play games on these dating sites? I have to laugh when I read their profiles and they say, “I’m real!”

Why lie? You have to be completely honest. Why do all the women go for the Tom Cruises and the Brad Pitts of the world? They pass up good guys! — A Good Guy”

Dear Good Guy:

You laugh when they say “I’m real”. I laugh when I see things like “I love traveling”, “I’m easy-going” “I’m really down to Earth” or “I like guys taller than 6 feet.” Saying “I’m real” is the equivalent of those first three phrases. I have seen those words on profiles from Match to Tinder to OK Cupid. And I laugh at the first three because they are so generic and reveal nothing about the person and in turn makes them even more boring. I laugh at the last one because those women are height supremacists. They are shallow enough to say that they wouldn’t go out with a guy – who might be everything that they’re looking for – because of his height. I have no problem with taller women. It doesn’t matter to me, but some women can’t get past their insecurity of being taller than their man.

I’m not going to lie to you Good Guy, if Brad Pitt came up to me – a straight man – and said “John, let’s get outta here and start our life together” I would definitely think it over. But that’s another story.

Those women who are chasing the unobtainable man are nothing more than a dog chasing cars. They wouldn’t know what to do if they caught it. They tend to pass on the “good guys” because they have this idea of their ideal man. And men do this too. We pine after the Jennifer Lawrence’s and Marion Cotillard’s of the world with no real hope of ever coming in contact with them. Or we have a certain body type or hair color that we find necessary in our partner. It goes both ways.

My advice is to just be yourself and be honest because the women who find you interesting and attractive will find you.

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