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06/02/2015
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“Jaw With John” – He’s Got You By The Ovaries

“My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years. He is 26 and I am 23. We live together and share everything. We have talked about marriage and kids many times, but we seem to have different opinions. He says we might get married, but then he changes his mind.

He sees us as pretty much “married” already (but without legal documentation) and he’s worried about our financial status if we get married. He says he’ll feel really old if we get married and that he wants to “experience life” before he gives it up for a kid.

I told him if he ever asked me to marry him I would say yes and if he wanted kids I would have them. I don’t want to push him away, but I want to be bound to him legally and religiously.

For now, we are relying on his parents financially. I just want to know for sure if we’ll take things to the next level. If not, I will stay with him regardless, I guess. How should I approach this? — Confused”

Dear Confused:

So, lemme get this straight, you’ve been dating since you were 17 and he was 20? … Was that legal? Or did you Age of Extinction me and find out about Romeo & Juliet laws? Either way, I digress.

Your boyfriend talks about feeling “really old” when he gets married (NEWSFLASH: it means you’re getting older when you get married!) and wanting to “experience life” (Sounds like he doesn’t want to be tied down, maybe he’s got something on the side?) before all of that and it makes me believe that he really doesn’t want to get married or have kids at all. He has said he doesn’t want them any time soon but you two are far too young to be getting married, having kids, living on your own etc. and given that you are still looking to his parents for financial help … I don’t think marriage or a baby is right for you. Pump the brakes on the ol’ baby-maker.

Whoa whoa whoa. I just noticed something else: You want this relationship to go to the next level but you’re willing to stick with the status quo regardless … You’re a tough one to crack. You want marriage and a baby, but only if he does. You don’t want to push him away, but you can’t leave him. He seems to have you by the (female version of) balls (ovaries?). He knows what you want but won’t give in. You’re trapped in this relationship and you need to take a hard look in the mirror and see what you want and then tell your boyfriend how you’re feeling. Only then can you move forward.

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26/01/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Call Me, Maybe? Girl, Make It Definitely

“I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost three years. After our breakup, a friend, “Bob,” asked me out.

For the past two weeks, Bob and I have gone out multiple times and talked almost every day. He is very sweet and often compliments me.

We haven’t talked about any potential relationship, but it seems clear that he likes me.

Four days ago Bob and I went to get drinks and the movies, and his sister and her husband came along. I met them for the first time.

We all had a good time and I ended the night by telling Bob to call me when he wanted to see me again, but I haven’t heard from him. Now I am confused. I don’t want to call Bob since I told him to call me, but I’m afraid he will lose interest or think that I am uninterested.

What should I do? I genuinely like him and could see us having a relationship together. Do you think I’m moving too fast? — Single”

Dear Single:

If you like him, call or text him. He clearly likes you and the fact that you’re wondering why he hasn’t called you shows you like him too. Maybe he just got busy with work or life in general and has forgotten to call you. It wouldn’t be the first time that’s happened to someone before. Send him a quick message about the other day and how much fun you had and see what happens. But remember: be cool.

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25/12/2014
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“Jaw With John” – When Aunt Flo Comes To Town, Stay In The Guest Room

“I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost three years. Lately, I have noticed that when it is her “time of the month” she will become extremely angry or get extremely down on herself. The last couple times she got this way I shrugged it off, but a few days ago, she told me that she did not want to eat because she thought that she looked fat, even though she told me she was having headaches because she was so hungry. I offered to get some food for her. She then got angry and stormed off.

It has gotten to the point where it may affect her relationships. I’m worried about her.

I really love her and I do not want to break up with her, but is there anything that I can say or do to persuade her not to be so negative during that time? — A Worried Boyfriend”

Dear Worried:

Bro, steer clear when ‘Aunt Flo’ comes to town. Jumping ship to another girl won’t change the situation, it’s biology. Since the dawn of time women have been PMS-ing, from Delilah to Carrie to Lorena Bobbitt, you should know to just give her space because she’s not her normal self during this time.

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05/12/2014
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“Jaw With John” – Hey! Hey! You! You! You don’t like your boyfriend

“I met a really nice man about a month ago, and we have been going out. We did not have our first kiss until our fifth date, and we were both drunk when it happened.

We spent almost the whole weekend together (no sex) this past weekend, and it was a lot of fun. He sent roses to my office on Monday. However, I feel like a jerk because I am still not sure about this.

I am about to graduate with a master’s degree, and he didn’t go to college. I know it shouldn’t matter. He has a great job. However, I always just have seen myself with someone who has an education.

He is a momma’s boy, and that scares me. He tells his mother everything. While we were on our date, on our train ride home at 1 a.m., I fell asleep on his shoulder. He took a selfie of me, but did not tell me. He sent the picture to his mom, and I found out from his mom (I have never met her) the next day. Should I be creeped out by this? — Broken”

 

Dear Broken:

I’m creeped out just reading about him.

You seem REALLY hesitant to do anything with this guy. I mean, it took you five dates(?!) to kiss AND you were drunk? I went out with a girl for about a month or so (about a date a week) and it wasn’t until that final date that she said she liked me as a friend/liked hanging out with me and, I’ll be honest, that sucked. Don’t string him along any further because it’s not fair to him or you.

On the topic of his educational background, you seem to be fabricating negatives to justify your reason for not liking him all that much. Ultimately, I believe that you really don’t like this guy and on top of that he’s taking photos of you and sending them off to his mom without your consent. That’s photographic rape and a clear sign to GTFO. Get Detective Benson and the SVU squad on the case stat.

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