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10/03/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Can’t Toke Up Around You

“I am in a predicament. I have a good new friend who is having a birthday party he very much wants me to attend. The problem is that he has informed me that the party will be “alcohol and 420 friendly.”

I don’t have issues with the alcohol, and I live in Washington state, where recreational marijuana is legal, so that is not the issue either.

My problem is that I have PTSD caused by an abusive stepfather who was a marijuana addict.

The very smell of pot smoke sends me into flashbacks and gives me jitters.

Should I attend this party and do my best to hold it together? If not, how can I tell my friend why I am not coming, without him feeling I am judging him? — Nervous in Washington”

Dear Nervous:

I can’t stand the smell of pot smoke either. It used to not bother me, when I would smoke, but after I stopped I realized that I just didn’t like the smell at all. It would be nauseating at times. That’s why edibles are the way to go.

They come in more than just brownies nowadays. You can find them in lollipops, Rice Krispie treats, cookies, chocolate etc. etc. etc. If those don’t bring out the same symptoms as the smoke then bring up the fact that you can’t be around pot smoke and see if the party can change. If not, then you might need professional help.

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18/12/2014
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“Jaw With John” – Stepfather Blows Smoke Up Your Butt (not literally)

“I am the mother of three children who enjoy going to my mom and stepfather’s house to spend the night. The issue is that my stepfather smokes in their home and vehicle.

I have spoken to them and stated that my husband and I do not want our children around smoking. I asked that he not smoke in the home and car when our children are there.

My children have come home and told us that he continues to smoke in their presence.

My children also tell us that they don’t eat at times when they are there, and do not take baths after playing outside with pets.

I do know that the couple’s cleanliness is not the greatest. Their dog has been ill with untreated illnesses.

*Due to all these factors I have decided not to let my children in the home. It is my job to protect them, and I feel my mom and stepfather should respect my wishes.

*Am I overreacting? And how should I handle this situation, since saying something before has not changed anything. — Protective Mother”

Dear Mother:

Smoking is one of the most disgusting habits in the world. Tobacco smoking that is, the “sticky icky” is a whole other ball of wax. I work with quite a few people who do smoke and, honestly, it gets me frustrated and sick whenever I see them smoking. The fact that your stepfather is doing this around children REALLY bothers me. He should know better and you need to tell him face to face that he needs to not smoke in their presence.

“They don’t eat at times”? What does that mean? Are they skipping meals or are they just not snacking a lot? You need to be more specific here because if it’s just snacking then that’s probably for the best, but if it’s a full on meal then you’ve got a bigger problem.

I once went an entire week not showering or changing my underwear. True story. It was Boy Scout camp and my “bath” was jumping into the ocean and then marching up to my tent, through the dirt and mud and sand. Kids will get dirty, it’s part of being a child. Your parents seem to let kids be kids.

*Sigh* You need to voice your opinion and let your parents know that you will not tolerate smoking in front of or around your children. Otherwise, that smoke is going right up your butt.

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