My daughter is on her third marriage to a pretty nice guy, but she’s also in regular contact with her first husband by text, email, and phone. And now, her present husband is also in contact with an ex-girlfriend (hanging out, having lunch, etc.). What part of this picture am I not getting?
— SUSPICIOUS MOM AND IN-LAW IN ARIZONA
Dear Suspicious,
You are getting the entire picture. Your daughter is either on the verge of ending yet another marriage or they are trying to get into swinging.
“My husband wants to be with other women. He has spent the last 12 years asking for a threesome. I love him and don’t want to share him with the world, but he doesn’t love me the same.
We have been together more than 29 years. He says he just wants to have fun. Since I’m not interested in swinging with him and others, should I just get a divorce? I believe he won’t be complete until he gets to enjoy his life the way he wants, and I’m tired of having my feelings hurt each time he meets someone he wants to be with.
I’m a 51-year-old woman who is still very sexually active, yet I am not enough for him. I have tried everything. I’m tired. — DOESN’T WANT TO SHARE HIM”
Dear Doesn’t Want To Share,
The situation you and your husband are in reminds me of this scene from Old School:
It seems as if your husband is experiencing the same thing as Will Ferrell’s character…only 29 years later.
I feel that you, just as in the movie, are unfortunately on the road for divorce. You have reached the point where an unstoppable force (husband) has met an immovable object (you). You won’t blink and compromise on your morals and he’s like a dog with a bone(r). It’s time to find a lawyer and let him wet his whistle somewhere else.
John Kidde Writes 