“Oh, that letter from “Torn” made me crazy!
The birthday boy who wants to exclude Torn’s wife from a party is the same kid who in grade school invited the whole class to his party except for a few of the heartbroken kids. Mean kids grow up to be mean adults. — Inclusive”
Dear Inclusive:
Yup. Some people are dicks for their entire lives.
“I have a story like “Torn’s,” whose best friend excluded Torn’s wife from a party invitation.
When we were dating, my husband introduced me to his best friend and the friend’s wife. He told them we were serious and would likely marry. The wife then issued several party invitations to my then-boyfriend, specifically excluding me. Regardless of whatever reasons she had for her behavior, we were a couple and expected to be treated as such. We did not attend the parties (and the friendship soon ended). — B”
Dear B:
I approve. This behavior is not something that should be tolerated and to nip it in the bud, sometimes, the “friendship” must end.
“There are two men in my life who have been playing ping-pong with me and my emotions for the past year or so.
I’ve known “David” for most of my life. For many years he said he was interested in me and talked about plans of marriage, children and taking care of me.
He never made a serious move until this past year, but he works odd hours and cancels plans on short notice to travel for work. Sometimes he disappears, leaving me in the dark as to what is going on.
For about a week we were officially “dating.” He labeled me his “girlfriend” on social media and soon after that he disappeared. He recently messaged me and said he wanted to get back together, but I’ve been dating “Jack.”
Jack and I have dated for a year but he shows a lack of interest in our relationship. He will tell me he is on his way home, and by morning he won’t be there and he won’t tell me why.
He’ll also go shopping and buy “special” items for himself and not think twice about our household.
When I brought up a plan for starting a healthier lifestyle, Jack treated it as a joke. I decided to break up with him. Then he started a fight with me and we both ended up saying things we didn’t mean.
My problem is I’m not sure which guy is good for me.
I’m not sure what to do now that my emotions are all over the place. I feel swamped with a big decision I don’t know how to make. — Torn”
Dear Torn:
There’s nothing where he used to lie
My conversation has run dry
That’s what’s going on
Nothing’s fine
I’m torn
Natalie Imbruglia, man. She gets you.
This answer is very very very very simple: None of them are good for you. Tell David and Jack to hit the bricks because you’re going to find yourself a new man!
John Kidde Writes 