“I have been dating an obese woman for two months. We are both 30. We have created incentives for each other (I’m actually a little underweight) and we are both living more healthfully.
I introduced her to my family. She loved them, but the next day they voiced their disapproval to me. They said some horrible and insulting things about her weight.
I didn’t realize how shallow my family was, and I am trying to figure out how to persuade them not to be.
I keep telling myself someone’s weight can change, but the personality can’t. I would be lying if I said I was satisfied with my girlfriend’s weight, but she is doing great and has lost 25 pounds. Should I keep those comments to myself until I can prove them wrong? Is it horrible that I now keep her away from my family with no explanation? — Wondering”
Dear Wondering:
Focus on losing that weight and enjoying each others company. Don’t worry about your family and their feelings toward her. And for damn sure don’t tell her about those comments. The last thing you need in your life is someone making a negative out of a positive.
John Kidde Writes 