“‘Bart’ and I dated in high school. After graduation we went our separate ways. We each married and had children. Eventually we both got divorced and started to date each other again.
A couple of years later we lost contact because we moved to different states. He got married again and it did not work out so he divorced. We did not see each other for two more years.
A couple of months ago we searched for each other and finally met up again. We are both 54 years old.
I am still single but he is seeing a girl on and off. He said she was there for him when he was going through his nasty divorce.
This other girl is separated from her husband (but not divorced). It is now three times that he and I lost contact and were able to find each other again.
Now we are back in each other’s arms. I told him I want someone who is not seeing anyone else. He said he is not going to marry this girl or even live with her, but he can’t just walk away. Now he is seeing both of us.
I want to call it a day and walk away but he said we are destined to be together. I can’t get him off my mind.
Please tell me what to do! — Helpless”
Dear Helpless:
If this were a John Cusack movie I would tell you that this is destiny. But it’s not. This is real life. And in real life there is no destiny, only coincidences.
Didn’t you watch The Matrix?
You’re in control of your own life and not some mystical force. Bart is on his own path as well and you need to let him go. Call it a day. Don’t be the “Other Woman” here and live your life.
John Kidde Writes 