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11/08/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Put Your Behind In The Past

“I dated a guy on and off for eight years. After finally breaking things off with him, I have been single now for the last three years.

I have not been on a date for the whole three years that I have been single. I am an attractive woman, but I can’t seem to attract any man since I broke up with my last boyfriend. I also have trust issues I cannot seem to shake off. Please help me control my past. — Wondering Single”

Dear Wondering:

“You got to put your behind in the past.” – Pumba

I can’t help you control your past. You need to learn from what happened and move forward. That’s the only way you’ll find someone.

Let me tell you that there’s never been a worse time to be single than right now. Honestly. First of all there are bars and places where you could traditionally meet people that are generally a nightmare and filled with the people with whom you don’t want to have a relationship. Then there are the dating sites and apps that make it easier to find people who don’t like to go to those bars. They will share your common interests but some people just want to chat and never want to meet up. Others will only want friendship from you, leading you on making you believe that you have something special.

It sucks. It truly, utterly sucks.

If there is a silver lining then it is that there are success stories out there. You just need to try other places to meet people.

Ultimately, be confident in yourself and you will attract that guy. Forget all that negativity I just spewed out as I was partially venting my own frustrations and exude confidence. You’ll be set if you do.

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04/06/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Online Dating Keeps Giving Him 404 Error

“Why do so many women play games on these dating sites? I have to laugh when I read their profiles and they say, “I’m real!”

Why lie? You have to be completely honest. Why do all the women go for the Tom Cruises and the Brad Pitts of the world? They pass up good guys! — A Good Guy”

Dear Good Guy:

You laugh when they say “I’m real”. I laugh when I see things like “I love traveling”, “I’m easy-going” “I’m really down to Earth” or “I like guys taller than 6 feet.” Saying “I’m real” is the equivalent of those first three phrases. I have seen those words on profiles from Match to Tinder to OK Cupid. And I laugh at the first three because they are so generic and reveal nothing about the person and in turn makes them even more boring. I laugh at the last one because those women are height supremacists. They are shallow enough to say that they wouldn’t go out with a guy – who might be everything that they’re looking for – because of his height. I have no problem with taller women. It doesn’t matter to me, but some women can’t get past their insecurity of being taller than their man.

I’m not going to lie to you Good Guy, if Brad Pitt came up to me – a straight man – and said “John, let’s get outta here and start our life together” I would definitely think it over. But that’s another story.

Those women who are chasing the unobtainable man are nothing more than a dog chasing cars. They wouldn’t know what to do if they caught it. They tend to pass on the “good guys” because they have this idea of their ideal man. And men do this too. We pine after the Jennifer Lawrence’s and Marion Cotillard’s of the world with no real hope of ever coming in contact with them. Or we have a certain body type or hair color that we find necessary in our partner. It goes both ways.

My advice is to just be yourself and be honest because the women who find you interesting and attractive will find you.

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22/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – After Four Months Your Lips Are Dry

“I met someone through eHarmony and have been seeing him for four months.

He is kind and attentive. He doesn’t smoke, drink or gamble. He has a steady, well-paying job. Neither of us has previous relationship experience, and he often thanks me for being so patient with him.

However, after four months he says he is still not ready to kiss me. Is it too much to expect some sort of physical expression after four months?

He is thoughtful in every other way, but I am very frustrated.

I now feel that the spark is gone. I don’t regret meeting him and would like him to remain a part of my life, but as a friend rather than a romantic partner.

Is there a way to ignite the chemistry? Will it come as he builds his comfort level?

Should I stay with him even if I’m left unsatisfied and jealous of other happy couples? — Hoping for More”

Dear Hoping:

The dude won’t kiss you? You must feel like Never Been Kissed except you’re not in high school or disguising yourself to look like a high school student for a newspaper and you’ve been kissed before…moving on!

There are two scenarios here that I believe to be the most plausible given your situation. #1 He’s gay OR #2 He’s just not that into you.

I’ve been where you are Hoping and you just need to express your feelings and tell him or else you’re doomed to wonder “what if?” or “what’s wrong with me?” and it will drive you insane. Four months of dating without a kiss is kinda bullshit and you know it.

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15/04/2015
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“Jaw With John” – Pull The Plug On The Digital Relationship

“I have a question about a guy. We met once and I liked him. He was for real and exactly as he appeared online.

A health condition put him into a fragile situation. He is abroad getting therapy and is under a doctor’s care.

The problem is, how long should I wait for him? We communicate through emails, pictures and videos. He claims he doesn’t like to talk on the phone.

I would like to talk on the phone. I am getting discouraged waiting for him.

It has been a year of computer communication and I am getting tired of it. — Computer Challenged”

Dear Computer:

You’ve waited a year!!!!?? Holy hell you’re patient…and a twinge bit naive.

I think it’s apparent at this point that he’s never coming back – if he ever left at all. You’re spending all this time and energy on a guy who’s LITERALLY not around. He’s got you wrapped around his finger and he knows it. There’s a whole world of guys out there who are actually around you and willing to be physically be with someone. Get your fine ass out there and find him!

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